I’m answering the most-asked question about my life right here, right now. Whether it’s at a photography session, on social media, or at vendor meet-ups. I get this question all. the. time.

“Are you married?”

Well, guys. The answer is No. But, not just a N-O. I’m actually divorced.

For the longest time, I’d actually get a bit embarrassed to admit that. My heart would palpitate a little. I’d think “who wants to hire a divorced wedding photographer for their wedding”. Unrealistic thoughts would run through my mind like “they’re gonna think I’m a fraud, they’re gonna think I don’t love love.”

Seriously. These. Are. My. Thoughts. 

When I say that out-loud a cringe a bit. Well, because..

1. Not a single client, or friend, has ever made me feel that way. They’re actually the opposite. They make it a mission of theirs to introduce me to someone lol!

2. That’s absolutely not the case. I LOVE love. I’ve cried at every single wedding. Yep, every one. Whether it’s the groom watching the bride walk down the aisle, a bride’s father seeing her for the first time, or even the bride seeing her groom during a First Look. It’s all beautiful and I love it so so much.

I feel a bit vulnerable for sharing this with the world, but this is my story. This is apart of who I am and what has made me ME. I’m not embarrassed anymore. If anything, I’m actually thankful that it happened because I learned so many life long lessons, and we made a beautiful boy together. I sacrificed my own happiness for the longest time to play the part of husband and wife. I wasn’t ready for that role. I didn’t know what that looked like. However, we’re best friends to this day and I’m so grateful for that.

I encourage you to speak your truth. Say it out loud. Not only does it feel better, but it could possible help someone else.

 

Hugs,

Alexi